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Mon-29-10-2012, 01:27 AM
Right we are housebuilding - with very little money & it gets stressful, now I also have my husbands ex living with us - now I guess I have a right to be stressed?? not really, the house is brill, can't believe we've done this! Melly's ex is ok, we are finding our feet & she contributes to costs so I don;t have problem, she needs somewhere to be safe & Shasa their youngest has commented how much better she is, I'm the caring type so having someone who needs me is ok. Also she has taken over the hovering & loads the dishwasher etc... I cook she clears up - seems to work... so why are my friends telling me its wrong?? 
surely its not wrong to give someone somewhere to live when they have problems? I don;t feel able to talk to my friends as they all seem horrified? Its not as if its just us & her in the house, we also have 2 other lodgers, one of whom eats with us most nights, it makes life more interesting & I'll admit we are totally different & she gives me a totally different view of life at times! I need my friends support but find they can't see how this works - she is not the predatory type, if I said I was unhappy with the situation Melly would understand, but its not in my nature - so why the message? is it the stress of the situation or the feeling that my friends feel I'm being put upon that is making my foot worse - today its all around the edge & around my toes & feels like someone is pushing in nails when I walk - so I scratch.... ahhhh!! think its time for the saw.... 
sorry just miserable - and I have a low pain threshold which does not help! been on anti-depressents for long time, have been told not to come off again as I have a chemical imbalance, re-triggered by shingles so the glums are a fact of life, but I worry now that this very fact is making my psoriasis worse?? ahhh!! Fact of life the ex has to stay, I have no problem with her, I've no idea if she has a problem with me, but seems unlikely following the big hug I got the other day! so will someone just tell me I'm doing the right thing..... please
ok whinge over! feel better its off my chest (all 48D of it)
surely its not wrong to give someone somewhere to live when they have problems? I don;t feel able to talk to my friends as they all seem horrified? Its not as if its just us & her in the house, we also have 2 other lodgers, one of whom eats with us most nights, it makes life more interesting & I'll admit we are totally different & she gives me a totally different view of life at times! I need my friends support but find they can't see how this works - she is not the predatory type, if I said I was unhappy with the situation Melly would understand, but its not in my nature - so why the message? is it the stress of the situation or the feeling that my friends feel I'm being put upon that is making my foot worse - today its all around the edge & around my toes & feels like someone is pushing in nails when I walk - so I scratch.... ahhhh!! think its time for the saw.... sorry just miserable - and I have a low pain threshold which does not help! been on anti-depressents for long time, have been told not to come off again as I have a chemical imbalance, re-triggered by shingles so the glums are a fact of life, but I worry now that this very fact is making my psoriasis worse?? ahhh!! Fact of life the ex has to stay, I have no problem with her, I've no idea if she has a problem with me, but seems unlikely following the big hug I got the other day! so will someone just tell me I'm doing the right thing..... pleaseok whinge over! feel better its off my chest (all 48D of it)