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Mon-26-08-2013, 10:07 AM
I don't know if it helps but I too would say to my wife "I wouldn't know if I could cope if she got really ill." That doesn't mean I wouldn't help, it just means I would be at a loss on where to turn next.
Like most people your O/H has probably never had the experience of looking after someone suddenly struck with a debilitating problem. Yes he knows how you are now and copes with that, but to have to look after you 24/7 could have a huge impact on his or anyone's life.
A friend of my wife's was once faced with a similar problem when he had to look after his wife when her MS got worse. Their daughter was to young to look after her, and although her mother used to help she didn't live close by. I never thought he would be able to handle it, but he spoke to me one day and said he was going to look after her full time and give up his job. I was surprised, but it worked and he used to have one weekend off each month when her mother would come to look after her. Their daughter as she grew up also started helping and they actually seemed a closer family than before.
Brighteyes don't take this the wrong way, but at the moment he is coping with it and if things should change I'm sure he would sit down and work something out. But yes I think you are reading to much into it, and anyway you should wait and see if you do get severely ill before worrying yourself and possibly him about what will happen.
Life's to short to worry about what will happen IF! You're not alone, and don't forget us Blokes talk a different language to Women (we talk sense and women misunderstand everything we say)
Like most people your O/H has probably never had the experience of looking after someone suddenly struck with a debilitating problem. Yes he knows how you are now and copes with that, but to have to look after you 24/7 could have a huge impact on his or anyone's life.
A friend of my wife's was once faced with a similar problem when he had to look after his wife when her MS got worse. Their daughter was to young to look after her, and although her mother used to help she didn't live close by. I never thought he would be able to handle it, but he spoke to me one day and said he was going to look after her full time and give up his job. I was surprised, but it worked and he used to have one weekend off each month when her mother would come to look after her. Their daughter as she grew up also started helping and they actually seemed a closer family than before.
Brighteyes don't take this the wrong way, but at the moment he is coping with it and if things should change I'm sure he would sit down and work something out. But yes I think you are reading to much into it, and anyway you should wait and see if you do get severely ill before worrying yourself and possibly him about what will happen.
Life's to short to worry about what will happen IF! You're not alone, and don't forget us Blokes talk a different language to Women (we talk sense and women misunderstand everything we say)