Kick him up the arse and tell him to have some respect.

(Tue-31-08-2021, 19:24 PM)Fred Wrote: Kick him up the arse and tell him to have some respect.

My wife molly coddles the man, or should I say boy. I get flack every time I try to set him on the straight and narrow. It's made for some tense situations. Glad they are over.

(Tue-31-08-2021, 15:01 PM)Turnedlight Wrote: Eurgh, very annoying! Is there any point in showing him your psoriasis? I don’t suppose he’d feel a bit guilty?

He's got this "All about me" attitude. Not sure if he would make any changes.

Now....addressing stress in my life in relation to my psoriasis flare ups. Where should I start? If I haven't mentioned it before, I will say so now. I am a survivor. I have PTSD due to being sexually abused as a child. I have it also because of the physical abuse I suffered at the hands of my Father and my Mother at times. All those memories intrude on my life fairly regularly, although less often these days. I seem to have been given a bit of a reprieve. When I do get the flashbacks, I become suicidal, because it's so devastating. At those times, I usually wind up in locked hospital environs, while the doctors dream up a new treatment plan. It is also during those times, that my psoriasis goes a bit haywire. To be honest, I can't remember when the flare ups started, but I barely remember when this stress wasn't a part of my life.  See, I started my journey to healing when I was 25. I had psoriasis then, in my scalp and behind my ears. I just chose to ignore it.  It wasn't until the last 5 years, that I have allowed myself to go and get treated for psoriasis.  You all know that part of my story.

I know that in the past 8 weeks, my stress has been going down, as I see some of my body clearing up. It seems to be kind of a bio feedback kinda thing. The more I see the psoriasis go down, I feel less stressed. What sealed the deal in how psoriasis is affected by stress for me, was my son coming to visit. You all saw his behavior and how piggish he is and the stress it caused me.  Since his arrival, my face has broken out and gotten worse and my elbows and behind the ears flared up as well.  Before this, all those areas were under control. As of now, it isn't. Those areas are dry, itchy, scaling. We all know the routine.  Anyways, that's all I have to say. It isn't a good day, for me.


Cheers!



Wintrman

Sorry you're having a bad day. And so sorry to hear about your PTSD and what you've endured.

Be proud of who you are and how far you've come!

As for your son, sadly there are a lot of "all about me" people it seems. Perhaps talk to your wife and you two try to compromise on an agreement. Let go the things that will go with him (like his shoes for instance) but require he clean up after himself when it comes to things you or your wife will have to do when he leaves (like picking up garbage or cleaning the bath) Then together tell your son he is a grown man and you want to enjoy your time while he visits but you need him to do "x" during his stay. And if your wife says no, then let her do the cleaning up after him. (That's what would happen in our house if we didn't agree)

Hope your day improves!

You went through so much Wintrman and I am happy that you are still fighting and persevering in your healing journey.

Now for your son, I agree with Kat.  This should easily be resolved with a good conversation between adults and remember, it is temporary. 

Hope you have that discussion soon and it gets resolved

Well, my oldest son is gone! I had such a relaxed weekend and enjoyed it sooooo much. I can't tell you how much I enjoyed my time out camping. Then I came home. The house was a pig sty. Beer cans, empty pack of smokes, dishes everywhere, basement with beer cans, dirty dishes and trash laying about. I was in a rage within 5 mins of coming home. I had to come home early from a long weekend because I had to work today.  Anyways, back to rage. It was like going on a camping trip was pointless to have it end like this. So, I cleaned up, blared tunes in my ears and took a few minutes to use my EMDR techniques to calm down.

On the plus side I lost 1.4 lbs.. Sitting at 33.4 lbs. lost in total. Wheee! I was happy to see that this morning. Even after misbehaving a bit on the weekend, I still managed to get a net loss. Life is good in that regard.

Again, on the negative side, the one flare up I have had, and it continues to get worse, on my center forehead, down the bridge of my nose, and from the centre of my eyes inwards towards my eyes and eyelids. Meds are not working on it and I am finding it frustrating. Things had been going so well. Part of me wonders what I am doing wrong, and now my face looks like shit. Kinda hard to look in the mirror, even to shave.

Talk to you all soon,

Wintrman

Must be the stress that you went through again.
Stress gives all kinds of chemical reactions in your body. That is at least what I get from your own posts, that is that you do have very much profit when you are able to reduce your stress levels.

Sooo…. Relax…. Which, I know, is very easy to say, I’m sorry for that.

(Mon-06-09-2021, 19:26 PM)Caroline Wrote: Must be the stress that you went through again.
Stress gives all kinds of chemical reactions in your body. That is at least what I get from your own posts, that is that you do have very much profit when you are able to reduce your stress levels.

Sooo…. Relax…. Which, I know, is very easy to say, I’m sorry for that.

Many things are easier said than done. I find that with my camping, comes a big change in my stress levels... for the better. 

I have many issues, which affect my stress levels. PTSD is one. Other childhood issues are another. Annnnd as you can tell, kids. So yeah, I hear ya, Caroline. Thanks for the support! I do appreciate it.

Hey kids! 
On April 16th, I was 365 lbs. Today I weighed in at 327 lbs. Wooohoooo!!!!