Problems dating and psoriasis

[Mike1967]

Has anyone had any success with forming a new relationship whilst living with Psoriasis?
I mean how and when do you bring it up?
How do you get past the embarrassment of the flaking for instance.

[jiml]

Hi Mike
I feel for you the problem has been the same for most of us psoriasis sufferers
When I first met my now wife a lot of years ago. I had psoriasis bad in my scalp and legs and back,
So it soon became obvious I had something. I didn't dare get into a serious clinch as the bumps on my body would give it away. She never mentioned it but on about the third date when I thought f it if I don't tell her she will leave me anyway so I bit the bullet and told her and she said she had a friend with it, and she looked beyond the skin.
I know it's hard but for casual relationships I used to hide it as much as possible but if you are serious about someone best to come clean early as if she dumps you it's better early rather than later.
If she accepts you let her know it's not constant and hospitals and doctors can control it very successfully these days with tablets or injections

My suggestion to you is get to a dermatologist tell them your concern and get onto something that will control it other than Steroid creams

[mataribot]

****TO MUCH INFO****

During high school, I went out on a whole one date because my stuff was covered in inverse. I thought there was something wrong with me most of my youth. Try explaining your condition to someone else - It's difficult to do even when not in private area.

[Fred]

Has anyone had any success with forming a new relationship whilst living with Psoriasis?

Yes I met my wife not long after getting Psoriasis.

I mean how and when do you bring it up?

Well we first met down the Pub and started becoming drinking buddies, after a while we found out we both had something in common (We had both just come out of a relationship and didn't want to start another one) so we carried on as just good friends, however after a couple of years it was becoming a bit more than that, and she didn't know about my psoriasis and I struggled to tell her, until one night she had come back to my place for coffee. I got a leaflet out that the doctor had given me (no internet then) gave it to her and said read this while I make coffee.

I came back with the coffee expecting her to be gone, and she said "So what it doesn't bother me" I plucked up the courage to show her and she started asking questions like does it hurt etc. The relationship got better and she started helping put my creams on ............................................. Oops better stop there this is a family forum.

How do you get past the embarrassment of the flaking for instance.

By excepting that you have it and talking with others about it, educating your friends and family is a good start. Tell them you can't catch it from anyone and it's an autoimmune problem, point them to Psoriasis Club and let them read for themselves, Start Here:
Psoriasis Myths and History
Is Psoriasis Contagious?
Types Of Psoriasis Explained

But most of be yourself don't hold back on meeting new people, and if anyone makes nasty comments or don't want to know you forget about them because they are not the sort of people you want to be around anyway.

Oh and anyone in the world can get psoriasis, and it can hunt them down at anytime of their life. So watch out people without, you could be next.

[KyPrincess]

I have waited before I told a man I was dating years ago. One day when we where kissing he felt my psoriasis when he put his hand up my long sleeve. He ask about. I told him. He literally ran from me and never came back or spoke to me again...So when I first started dating my husband I told him. Didn't want to go through getting close only for him to run away from me and going through that heartbreak again.

[Fred]

So when I first started dating my husband I told him. Didn't want to go through getting close only for him to run away from me and going through that heartbreak again.

Yep Sarah has summed it up well. Get it out in the open as soon as possible and save yourself getting upset later, and if they do walk away that's good because a person like that is not worth knowing.

[jiml]

Thinking about it and the modern age we are living in. If I were starting out again. I would join a dating site (some are not just meat markets) the advantage is you could talk about psoriasis before you met, if the reaction is negative move on
I'm not saying it's ideal but it's a way of getting it out in the open without getting embarrassed or hurt.

[Fred]

Thinking about it and the modern age we are living in. If I were starting out again. I would join a dating site (some are not just meat markets) the advantage is you could talk about psoriasis before you met, if the reaction is negative move on
I'm not saying it's ideal but it's a way of getting it out in the open without getting embarrassed or hurt.

I wouldn't do it on the public boards myself, but you could always ask in the [Group Specific] board if anyone wanted a date. You never know there may be other members who are feeling the same, and they could answer or send a PM.

[Mike1967]

Well it's encouraging to see that some of you have found love it's good to hear that there are people who can see past it.
It wouldn't bother me but I always think why would any lady look twice at me when there are so many other guys out there.
I have a patch on each hand so it's always pretty obvious.
Being a slightly chunky single father of three teenagers finding a partner is a longshot anyway

[Fred]

Well it's encouraging to see that some of you have found love it's good to hear that there are people who can see past it.
It wouldn't bother me but I always think why would any lady look twice at me when there are so many other guys out there.
I have a patch on each hand so it's always pretty obvious.
Being a slightly chunky single father of three teenagers finding a partner is a longshot anyway

Never give up hope mate, it's what's in the inside and not what's on the cover. And don't forget Beauty is only skin deep and we have plenty of that.